Do you feel powerless after your breakup, like your EX is holding all of the cards? Do you wish you could feel like your old self again – confident and free?
If you’re looking to get your power back after a breakup, check out these five ways you can start gathering your strength and feeling like your old self after the relationship has ended.
1. Stop Contacting Your Ex
While there are so many things you can’t control, this is something you can control: how much you contact your ex. And by “how much”, read don’t do it.
Going cold turkey and stopping contact with your ex can seem a bit harsh and like a big ask, but it’s one of the most impactful ways you can take your power back after a breakup.
2. Become a More Fabulous Version of You
I know you’re super fabulous already and it’ll be pretty hard to top yourself, but I want to challenge you to become a more fabulous version of yourself. I’m not suggesting plastic surgery, but I am wondering if you can try out a gym membership, update your hairstyle or get a new pair of glasses or set set goals and believe in yourself.
The fabulosity doesn’t have to come in the form of a big, dramatic change, but a little something something might put a little pep in your step and make you feel so much better.
Not only will you cross something off your to do list, you’ll also get a boost of confidence.
3. Try something new (especially if you’re open to laughing at yourself)
According to ThreadTalks, trying new things cultivates confidence.
If you’re ready to get your power back, don’t go to the familiar, go to the unfamiliar. You’ll surprise yourself with what you’re capable of and you’ll always have those memories of when you stepped out of your comfort zone – whether you “succeeded” or “failed” to fall back on.
So what’s something new you’ve been imagining trying for a long time?
4. Check out your options
What I’m encouraging you to do here is a little bit of window shopping.
I remember when I was a kid from time-to-time my mom would say let’s go to the mall. We weren’t going to buy anything but just to window shop. We’d walk from store to store and look in the windows to see what was for sale.
We’d compare the offerings from store to store, and then, after we’d seen enough, we’d head back home — window shopping.
I want you to start taking a look at single guys you might potentially be interested in. I don’t want you to hook up with any of them. I just want you to get an idea of what’s out there.
This will just let you know that although your heart is hurting at the moment, life is waiting for you when you’re ready.
5. Give yourself a break
Deciding to take an intentional break from love takes so much pressure off of you and will allow you to just take it easy.
Take this time to travel, be yourself and just relax in a way you probably haven’t done in a long time.
Remember, usually the times you’re not looking are the times you’re found.