The Best Way to Get Over a Break up So It Won’t Break You

You desperately want to know the best way to get over a breakup and feel better. Well, start with these tips to begin the process of letting your heart heal.

The best way to get over a break up is to turn it on its head and understand how the situation can benefit you and not break you!  

1.Give yourself a fresh start –  

Forget about the baggage and the past and give yourself the chance for a new start.

2. Reevaluate what you’re looking for – 

Some might see a break-up as a negative thing, but when you experience a break up, you have the opportunity to hit the pause button and re-evaluate what you’re looking for.

3. Reconnect with who you are – 

Some might think break-ups are times to feel lonely and all alone, but really it’s a great time to reconnect with who you are.

4. Reconnect spiritually – 

On the surface, people associate breaking up with times of sadness and self-loathing but it’s the perfect chance to reconnect with God.

5. Get your groove back – 

Breaking up gives you the chance to get your swag back. It gives you the chance to put the pep back in your step, straighten up your crown, take out that new party frock and hit the town. 

I’m not telling you to start a steamy affair with a young, sexy thing. Pause from all the of rush and busyness of your life to learn to balance love and life.

6. Reinvent yourself – 

Have you always wanted to try a new career? Have you longed to learn a new language or live out of the country? Now is your chance. Reinvent yourself. Push yourself to your limits.

7. Deal with your emotional health – 

Breaking up can be a really emotional time.  Lots of ugly crying, tissues, nose dripping…I get it.

It’s like a death  in your life.  So you may want to get some counseling to deal with it and other things that may need addressing.

Eventually when you’re ready and your heart is healed, you’ll be able to head out and love again.  Don’t feel pressure to do this sooner than you can deal with it and process it.

8. Take Back Your Power

Break-ups make us feel powerless.  

Why not take back your power?

Start now by checking out these 50 tips on how you can let your heart heal, be strong and get your power back.

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27 Responses

  1. Tiffany says:

    Rachel this blog is so inspirational for those who have recently gone through a break up. Thank you for creating and sharing!

    • Rai says:

      Thanks for reading Tiffany! I hope it helps someone who’s going through a hard time see a light at the end of a dark tunnel!

      • Laure says:

        I hope I can one day see the light again. He just left without a word. Just gave me the silent treatment and left. The world is very dark right now…

        • Rob says:

          Im sorry to read how u feel,the all most thing happened to me as well,we got to move above,the water or we will sink

        • Rai says:

          Laure, I’m sorry to hear this! It’s hard when you don’t get the closure you need to process it and move on. Laure, you CAN see the light again! You don’t need to let him have all the power and decide whether or not you see light. Choose to see light and to move forward. You don’t need to have all the answers right now, you just need to put one foot in front of the other, day after day after day and eventually, you’ll see the light again!

  2. Gavyn says:

    Thx rai this helped alot

  3. Karen says:

    My boyfriend and I broke up cause of his family they accused me of cheating on him but I was not my boyfriend never stuck up 4 me and he also accused me too he believes his family and not me 😥😥😥😖😖😖😞😞😞😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • Rai says:

      Hi Karen,

      I’m sorry to hear what happened with your boyfriend and his family. It’s hard because when we’re in relationships we’re dating the person and their family. It would be so much simpler if it was just the person we love. In the long run – if you were to get married – being part of that family is significant. You’re kinda stuck with them. So in some ways, you’re getting a taste of what that would be like in this situation. It’s not nice when someone who knows you really well just stands there while others are accusing you. You want to have trust in the relationship. Is this a relationship you feel has a long-term future? What are you doing now? Are you trying to convince your boyfriend to get back with you?

    • ashley says:

      so i dated this guy name brandon for almost a year and he was my first love, then to come to find out he was very physically abuse towards me. i had to break up with because i had to take him to court for what he did. right after i broke up with him i was so happy to be single but this great guy came into my life. we hit it off instantly. the guy brandon kept trying to come back up into my life even though it’s illegal for him too, he was making my other boyfriend believe things. we ended up just breaking up, i broke up with him but we were going to talk it out the next day but he stopped answering me and just completely left. the guy wasn’t treating me that well, he’d sometimes put his hands on me too and i think it’s because he was abused so he’d use it on me. my heart is still shattered because i never got my goodbye. i just wonder what i do to move on and start fresh it’s my first time being single in 2 years.


    How to do forget or move on how do u let go cause right now I feel like shit sorry for the language and the bad part I last talked to him today and he told me the truth why he broke up with me and it hurt I don’t want to miss him I want to hate him so the feelings I have for him die

    • Rai says:

      Vallerie, you will probably never forget…and it will be challenging to move on. It’s a process. It took a long time to become so attached to him and it will take just as long to become unattached. I won’t lie to you and tell you you’re going to instantly be over him. It’s not the case. Are you on my mailing list? I can journey along with you in the process of allowing your heart to heal.

  5. Michael says:

    Hey i am in 7th grade and my girlfriend broke up with me the problem is i really love this girl and i cant stop crying can you please help me.

    • Rai says:

      Hi Michael,

      Sorry that you’re hurting right now. I can imagine how much you’re feeling right now and if it’s your first love it’s even more overwhelming. Make sure you surround yourself wiht people who care about you and remind you what’s special and great about you. Try to remember the things you really like about her. Remember, just because she broke up with you, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

  6. Tiara Birden says:

    My boyfriend decided we brake up and start fresh as friends he says we don’t have any foundation he says we’re always arguing and I always bring up old news about him being in contact with other females but I honestly tried being friends I can’t take this torture any longer

  7. Jamilah Falero says:

    I’m hurting so bad right now and need to talk to someone

    • Rai says:

      Hi Jamilah,

      It won’t hurt like this forever. You’re going to get thorough this moment in life. I believe you’re strong and you’ll have the tools to make it to the other side. I’m going to reach out to you at your e=-mail address!

  8. Denise says:

    I need help asap, i’m going through the motions right now.

  9. Christi says:

    Rai, I broke up with my boyfriend on 10/1/2017, and I still thin about him and I miss him dearly, our break-up came because we were having issues and I asked him countless times to talk to me and he never would so I broke off the relationship. I have some many questions of why and what happened, I was always around his family and we were together a lot. When will the pain stop , we were together almost a year, and the holidays are right around the corner and I keep thinking of the first Thanksgiving and Christmas we spent together. I am hurting so bad and the tears seem to not stop, I have good day and bad days. Help me.

  10. Tee says:

    The pain I’m feeling is so bad that I feel that I might snap..I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and held him down through not working for three years. Now he has a new job that started a month ago and he is ghost doesn’t want to talk about the future and insults me in front of his family. I’m so hurt by his actions and feel he’s seeing someone else. We were together every day now it’s barely once a week. He says it’s the job but I no different. My heart is broken I supported him through all his rough times and now that my contract ended on my job and he just got one he’s treating me like I’m not worth anything.

    • damian Witherspoon says:

      My ex was over weight. I supported her. She wanted surgery and I didn’t want her to do it. I was worried about her health. I even cleaned her when she couldn’t clean herself. She left me. I’m really hurt over it. I dunno how to stop thinking about her. I made a bad mistake and lied to her when I 1st met her. N i wish I didnt. She never got over it. I made a mistake and really said sorry and tried to explain but she never forgave me. I feel horrible. I guess time will help. I feel like I’m dead inside.

    • damian Witherspoon says:

      Sorry 4 your pain and loss. You know who is really on your side when they no longer need u.

  11. damian Witherspoon says:

    My ex was over weight. I supported her. She wanted surgery and I didn’t want her to do it. I was worried about her health. I even cleaned her when she couldn’t clean herself. She left me. I’m really hurt over it. I dunno how to stop thinking about her. I made a bad mistake and lied to her when I 1st met her. N i wish I didnt. She never got over it. I made a mistake and really said sorry and tried to explain but she never forgave me. I feel horrible. I guess time will help. I feel like I’m dead inside.

  12. Bri says:

    It’s hurt so bad I don’t want to do anything

  13. L says:

    I got out of a horrible marriage about 4 years ago and tried dating a little, but had no luck so i gave it a rest. My friend i had know for 10 years confessed he had a crush on me…i alwaus did too so we started dating. He was the kindest, most romsntic loving person id ever dated, and i fell hard. Problem is, he is still friends with his ex girlfriend. They broke up 13 years ago, but still work together. She is very abusive and controlling with him and she didnt want us dating. She eventually concinced him to break up with me. It was the hardest breakup ever, because i could tell he didnt want to. Im so hurt because this is the best relationship I’ve ever had, but i have to let it to because hes not strong enough to stand up to her. I felt like he was my match…its so hard…

  14. Anthony says:

    Just ended an 11 year marriage because found out my wife was cheating on me with our neighbor. Living a lone now and some days are OK and others are depressing as all hell! Its been two weeks and I still can’t just have a normal day, but I read this stuff from all these great people who are feeling the same way I am and really helped. Im trying to just reinvent myself and move on…sucks though!! I wish you all the best! Thanks Rai

  15. jeane says:

    I lost my husband this year in February I was dating him at 15 yrs. old and married him at 16yrs old that was so hard we have four kids together and I started talking to this man and he would talk to me anytime I needed I could cry to him he helped me so much and we decided to see if there something there and was wonderful I felt happy and alive well he thinks I cheated because of a text on my phone but I didn’t cheat I didn’t want nobody else he made me so happy I never stood up for myself until him he made stronger but he broke up with me over a month ago and I can’t get him out of my head I see his smile the way he walked talked smelled his touch. and the last time I saw him I just wish he would let me prove myself.

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