We all long to love and be loved. It’s one of the most beautiful gifts life has to offer. In an effort to get love, sometimes we chase after the idea of love. The worst thing you can do is chase after the idea of love. That’s when it seems to allude you the most especially along the journey to meet the one.
If you’ve read my article “Do You Believe The One Exists” you’ll know that I believe less in the one and more in the one who God says yes to. The difference sounds so subtle but it’s a big deal when you think about it. Life is less about fate bringing two people together and more about two people being able to hear when God says “yes”.
Finding the one is less about finding your soul mate and more about having a heart that’s prepared to meet “the one”, and we can only get to this place when we have a heart that’s tuned in to hearing “The One” (God).
The Chase
Several years ago God showed me that I was chasing the wrong thing.
When I was single, it was easy to lose perspective and only see my singleness. I worried about meeting “the one”. As a result, sometimes I chased after the idea of love in the quest to find “the one”. This made me totally lose sight of “The One”.
Losing Sight of The One
While chasing after this idea of love – this idea of a perfect relationship and companionship – I should have been searching for The One (God). I should have been making sure I had a heart that was prepared to meet “the one”. I should have been putting myself in the position to hear when God said “yes” (or “no”).
I get it, you might be thinking, God can’t keep you warm at night. He can’t have flowers delivered to your job, and you can’t marry Him. I totally get that it may sound super religious or cheesy to say that if you want to find “the one”, you need to first find “The One”, but it’s biblical.
Check this out.
Matthew 6:33 says “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Looking at the order of things, we’re told first, focus on the kingdom. Think about God and what’s important to God. And then all the other things will come at you. Prioritize. Think about the most important things and the other stuff will follow.
Here’s another one.
Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Your job is to delight in God. God’s job is to give you the desires of your heart. Focus on God and He’ll worry about the rest.
You know what, Psalm 37:4 doesn’t just say to focus on God, it says to enjoy God – delight in Him. Love him like you love your favorite thing. That’s not a bad deal at all. God is inviting you to enjoy Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.
What Does God Want for You
If you think about it, what does God really, really want for you and your life? If He could choose just one thing for you to have what would it be?
Would it be for you to drive a new Mercedes? Maybe have a Prada bag? Maybe God wants you to get a new diamond ring?
I’m not saying God doesn’t want these things for you, but as He’s prioritizing what’s important I don’t think those things are popping up at the top of the list.
God longs to be in a relationship with you more than He longs for you to have a relationship with someone else. Your relationship with Him is His priority.
You Were Made to Love
But don’t worry. Don’t think because He wants first dibs on you that He doesn’t want you to have companionship. Nothing could be further from the truth!
God created us for relationship. Look at Adam. He’s single and lonely and God does something about it. (Genesis 2:20-22)
Adam names all the animals and then notices he’s alone. Even when the world was perfect, Adam sensed that he was alone. Adam wanted companionship.
God created us to love and be in relationship. What we feel – this need to find and be with “the one” is normal and natural. And just like Adam, God longs to help us find love.
But first, God invites you into relationship with Him.